Power of the Feminine Heart

29th April 2025 Written by Dvonne Loring

The feminine heart is a force to be wreckoned with

It burns

It bleeds

It aches

It needs

It longs

And it grieves

As women, we are biologically created to crave Love, connection and intimacy

Yet so many women are living with their hearts wide shut

I understand the long-standing contributions to this - 

Heartbreak

Betrayal

Abuse

Trauma

Patriarchy

Oppression

Suppression

We’ve chosen to guard, close and harden as a result

And yet I come to you with an offering

To reveal that there is an opportunity to reconnect and reclaim what is powerfully yours

Where you can allow the burn of your desire to enliven you

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There are consequences when we neglect the life force within our heart 

Often a woman will disconnect from her longing - the ache is simply too much for her to bear

I’m deeply familiar with this; I have done this myself

She might shut down her heart’s calls, pretend they don't exist with a smile on her face but an emptiness inside

She might distance herself from her own desire to minimize the potential shame or failure that might come if her deep yearnings don’t arrive

Or she might fill the longing of her heart with things that don’t truly nourish it - meaningless sex, food, substances, excessive focus on her appearance, undermining validation + approval seeking behaviour

All of these ways of managing our inevitable heart’s hunger undermines the bigness of its depth and breadth

This neglect can express itself similarly to an autoimmune disease - our body’s mechanisms turn on us and suddenly we become the threat

In that process, we disconnect from the very pulse that keeps us alive

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Darlings - it is  v u l n e r a b l e  keeping your heart open and succuently supple when its deepest desire(s) are not yet here

It is a true feminine art form and posture for her to assume this position of devotion to herself and to honour her heart in this way especially when society has told her to shrink what otherwise deserves more spaciousness

What does this posture ask of us?

Courage 

Courage to be bold and embody our desire 

And honesty 

Honesty to say and own with self respect and not entitlement - “I want more”

To want, to yearn, to crave is not a bad thing, unlike what we’ve been told

Society tells us we’re needy

And yes there are ways this neediness can become unhealthy - 

Codependence

Enmeshment

Gluttony

Addiction

Blind consumerism

Unethical hedonism

Harmful debauchery 

What I’m describing here is different to this

I’m speaking to wielding the aliveness that “the neediness” of your feminine heart inherently generates

I’m speaking to learning the ability to transmute the dense scarcity energetics of desperation into pure power that instead penetrates you and fills you up

I’m speaking to sitting with the pain of not having what you desire and allowing the vitality of that wash over you, allowing your own heart’s longings to resuscitate itself 

I’m speaking to discovering how to harness this energy to draw you more deeply into life 

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You see - you don’t just come alive when you receive what you want

You come alive through the wanting itself

Wanting more isn’t needy or selfish, it is coded into your heart

Your heart wants to be open, real and raw

It wants to be met there, not just by another or a beloved

But also, by you

What's better is...

When what you long for finally does arrive

You are already ripe, ready and ravenous to receive it

xx