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Importance of Authenticity

Written by Dvonne Loring


Authenticity - the quality of being true to oneself, and the capacity to shape one’s own life from a deep knowledge of that self” - Gabor Mate


Why is authenticity so important to me?


I was in a therapy session many years ago where I was guided through a somatic process


My eyes closed, turning inward as I dropped into layers of unmet, frozen feeling


Acquainting myself in this uncharted landscape, I unearthed something paramount within


“I am a good person”


These weren’t just words


I connected with the felt experience of this within my body for the first time


This was a remarkable discovery because my entire life, I’d truly believed I wasn’t


I’d found an internal reference point for what had always been my Truth that I had become disconnected from


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When you grow up only understanding how to please, obey, follow and comply


Where boundaries don’t exist


Where codependence breeds


Where who you are isn’t welcome or have a place to belong


Your authenticity suffers


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It was only upon embarking upon my healing journey that I realised the gravity and breadth of suffering being disconnected from myself was having on me


The self doubt

The bleak emptiness

The lack of direction

The overwhelming fear

The punitive self aggression

The soul destroying shame

The choking suppression

The gripping loneliness


I didn’t know where I was in time and space


I had no real sense of where I as a sovereign person ended and others and the world began


I even remember feeling times where I didn’t feel real, like I wasn’t fully there


I didn’t know who the fuck I was


It was hurting me


And yet, I didn’t know any different


The choice to self abandon wasn’t a conscious one


No, it was an unconscious one driven by the need to be loved as a dependent child


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The journey of reconnecting with myself has been a home coming I didn’t realise I was yearning for


Discovering I have a voice of my own, with my own independent experiences, thoughts, perspectives, opinions, wants, needs and desires


I was able to claim my story, where I had previously feared retribution from those who were involved


I began reconnecting with my gifts


My heart

My curiosity

My appreciation for beauty


I began landing back in my body and finding safe sanctuary here


Self trust started to become available to me that opened up doors of possibility and potential 


A new feeling was greeting me


It was self belief


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This is a slow process


And so it should be


Do not rush what deserves time and spaciousness to return 


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I’m humbled by the power authenticity bestows you


I see it both in my clients and in myself


It’s who you are

It’s your intuition

Your inner wisdom

Your higher self

Your spirit

Your soul


It’s life force and it’s all encompassing


There’s an ease

A trust

A clarity

A knowing

A holding that greets you


It’s gentle yet fierce and makes itself known


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To be who you are is the greatest gift you can offer the world


You have a uniqueness that is here to contribute to the mosaic of life


And yet you may be walking around, just as I was, unaware that there is infinite beauty to your very existence


Who you are matters


The world needs you 


Not who you think you need, should or have to be


But simply as you


Authenticity doesn’t mean


That you never feel -


Upset, split, torn, confused, numb, vulnerable


That you don’t have insecurities, resistance, fears or doubts 


There can be a misconception with the understanding of authenticity


Being authentic is being true to you, who you are, how you’re feeling moment to moment 


This includes acknowledging where you are being inauthentic 


“Commitment to observe one’s inauthenticity is actually that path back to authenticity” - Gabor Mate


Noticing where you’re avoiding yourself


Noticing your self denying traits


Noticing where it’s hard to love yourself


Noticing where you struggle to be honest with yourself


Noticing where it’s hard accept


It’s the practice of meeting yourself exactly. where. you. are.


And expanding your capacity to give all parts of you the permission to exist


Authenticity is the invitation to acknowledge, accept and welcome all of this


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So to answer why authenticity is so important to me?


It has given me freedom, permission, purpose and meaning where I otherwise had none


My responsibility now as an adult is returning to those abandoned places within and reconnecting with the parts I had to leave behind


Inhabiting my authenticity is a journey of embodying my humanity


And it is a path that I’m am devoted to


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If this touches you


You and I are alike in that we share the value of authenticity


If you want a safe space to allow who you are to unfurl


To welcome it with gentle love alongside other brave and beautiful women


Becoming You: Meet Disconnection and Discover Your Authenticity has been created for you


This is an intimate group coaching container where you are invited to be honest with yourself 


Where you don’t have to hide your fears or insecurities 


Where you get to connect with your beauty, your power and your essence


You get to connect with your own humanity in the way it has always needed and deserved


Limited spots are still available 


To claim one or to learn more, click here


We begin June 18th 2024


xx

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