3rd October 2023 Written by Dvonne Loring
I had a dream about my upcoming, first ever, in-person workshop
I’d gone about my day and it dawned on me three hours after the start time that it was on
I’d forgotten about it
I made a mad rush to the venue
Flustered
Stressed
Panicking
I arrived and a few of the attendees were still there patiently awaiting me
I apologised profusely trying to scramble for this complete oversight on my end
I fumbled my way to try and enter and access the building
I felt incompetent, unprofessional and was filled with great disappointment
It was a complete disaster
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My dream depicted my worst fear - no preparation and being completely at a loss
How I’ve managed this familiar feeling is to go into extreme planning and preparation which can often leave me tired and overworked
What this also quietly does is erode my self trust and my belief in my ability, my knowledge and what I have to offer
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Safe to say
Nerves are creeping in as the workshop draws nears
But there’s a deeper, bolder, more robust feeling that’s here with me
It goes beyond this workshop
It’s been with me for a long time
Terror
I feel this in a familiar place inside
It’s coupled with a helpless powerlessness that draws a sickening feeling in my belly
It’s a trauma response
Nerves, doubt, apprehension, resistance are appropriate responses to this new situation
To feel terror however, mmmm I recognise this is disproportionate and a call for inquiry
Now, I’m naming this in an effort to highlight how your past can (and does) colour your present experiences and how that can influences your decision making
I’ve turned down many opportunities, invitations and ideas
As well as shut the door to possibility and potential due to this terror
It has been, and continues to be a powerful force in my life
I used to curse it, often
I hated it because I saw it as holding me back
And I can still resent it, even now
What I remind myself here is that this terror is being felt by a younger, much more tender and innocent part of me that’s pleading for loving acknowledgement and who doesn't yet feel safe enough
To suppress
Ignore
Avoid
Or hurry it along
This can often further lock the terror into place
Why?
Because all these means of ridding the feeling is demonstrating to this part it is not ready to let go yet
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I’m creating a trauma-informed business
From the inside out
From the ground up
For my clients and myself
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I’ve been very intentional with how much time I have dedicated to planning this workshop
I’ve wanted to practice and play with new ways of meeting this terror I can (often) feel when I’m trying something new
Authenticity takes courage
It takes bravery
And it gently asks you to trust where you otherwise haven’t before
There’s risk involved
It’s up to you how much risk, if any at all, you are willing or are able to take
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Before any significant event, I tend to have chaotic dreams in the lead up
My workshop included
To feel resistance when something important is approaching, though uncomfortable is also welcome
It can signify that you’re leaning into a new edge
Offer yourself some loving grace
Allow yourself to grow into the new space you’re going to inhabit
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So here I am
Loving me here, scared and terrified
Because that’s true and honest
And that’s what authenticity is all about
xx
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